So, who is Natalia Granchenko? This is really a rhetorical question given I am not convinced that she knows who she is any more, but I will attempt to make some sense of it all. However, I can confirm that based on my research, others have been trying to find out the same thing, because there have been two searches of the name “Natalia Granchenko” on an anti-scam website, one in August and one in November!
I know that Natalia Granchenko was communicating with a number of men both prior to our introduction and during. I knew Natalia Granchenko in the guise of “Kristina Smirnova”, but also became aware that she was using a profile of one of her friends “Olga”. All of these profiles have now been removed from Jump4Love, but I know for a fact, that Natalia Granchenko is still active on Jump4Love with fake profiles. In addition, in spite of the fact that Natalia Granchenko informed me that she was no longer going to use ‘dating sites’, the reality, as was often to prove the case with this girl, was completely different. For example, I have recently discovered that she has a profile listed on Mariya Club, with her own name, but the photos are very recent…so much for Natalia retiring! I have written to Mariya Club to inform them about my experiences with Natalia Granchenko and Margarita Naumenko, I will publish the outcome, if any!
It is evident that Natalia Granchenko is not only an accomplished liar, but she is also a fantasist and I have to admit, an excellent actress. However, as with most things in life, there is always some truth amongst the lies and, given I know that Natalia is still active, albeit not necessarily using her real identity, I want to share some things that I have learned about her through hundreds of hours of ‘chat’ and subsequently through my own investigations. This may be useful to anyone else that suspects that they may be in touch with Natalia Granchenko. Whilst I knew Natalia Granchenko as “Kristina Smirnova”, I will, in the interests of simplicity, refer only to Natalia Granchenko.
In terms of her background, Natalia told me that she lived with her parents, or more specifically, her mother and her “step-father”. In fact, she built up an incredibly detailed story of how she hated him, that he was a “pervert” and was always spying on her. All of this sounded credible at the time, because Natalia would invariably wear very revealing clothes and often wore tops that exposed her nipples, or would come on camera wearing a very short robe and nothing else. She also said he was always drinking and that she was afraid of him, in addition to this, she told me that he rarely worked….and would watch TV until the early hours of the morning. Natalia built a ‘virtual family’ and would often give me news, updates or other ‘titbits’. For example, she would tell me when they had house guests, when she was helping her mother cook the dinner or be spending time helping her mother “print documents”. It all sounded so credible.
Natalia even told me how her step-father, who she said married her mother 7 years before, would insist that she sit on his knee when she was barely 18 years old…the inference being that this had some form of sexual connotation. In November 2010, she told me that she had caught her “step-father” in the bathroom with her underwear and in a compromising position. In fact, she made such a big thing about this, that we spent many hours discussing how she should handle this and, eventually we agreed that she would speak to her mother. She then gave me chapter and verse on the outcome.
However, the truth is, Natalia Granchenko does not live with her parents, she lives on her own, in a rented apartment, apart from when her ‘boyfriend’ stays with her. So, as you can see, Natalia Granchenko is quite capable of creating a ‘virtual family’ to go with her fantasy world.
Natalia, in her guise as “Kristina Smirnova” told me that she worked in a salon. In fact, she told me that she was a qualified hairdresser, but had asked her boss if she could take on the role of receptionist because this was less exhausting. Initially this cover story was used to explain why Natalia couldn’t meet with me, because she claimed that she worked 6 weeks and then had 2 weeks’ vacation. Needless to say, when I ‘met’ Natalia, she had just finished her vacation. However, not satisfied with this cover story, Natalia went on to tell me how her boss was always making unwarranted and unwanted advances on the girls and that, on one occasion, he seduced one of the girls at a Christmas party and she subsequently left. After a few weeks, Natalia told me that her boss was starting to make lewd remarks to her and was making advances on her; she said that she was very uncomfortable with this and felt “afraid”. Of course, I suggested that she report this matter to the Police or threaten to expose the man, but Natalia found many reasons why this was not possible.
Eventually I offered to help her if she felt uncomfortable. I said that I would help support her whilst she found another job; Natalia said that she didn’t think this was necessary. Looking back now, this seems incredibly naive; however, t the time it seemed to be a natural thing to offer in what was a blossoming friendship. In any event, a week or so later, Natalia said that she was no longer willing to accept his behaviour and left. Being a man of my word, I told Natalia that I would help her and, once again, with hindsight and perhaps foolishly, only now did I enquire as to how much she was paid each month. I was quite shocked when Natalia told me that it was $500 a month. I told her at the time that this seemed a very high salary for a ‘receptionist’ given the average salary in Ukraine as closer to $200 per month. Natalia insisted that this was because she was on some form of “profit share” and this meant she received a good income. Although I doubted the veracity of this statement, I had made a commitment and decided to honour it. At the time I did not doubt that Natalia was working at the salon, my one reservation was that she had exaggerated her salary. Because Natalia had left ‘without notice’ she told me her boss would not pay her, so I immediately sent Natalia $500 by Western Union.
The truth, however, is that Natalia was not working at a salon when I first ‘met’ her and, this appears to have been a carefully crafted story to create a situation whereby she could claim to need some financial support due to a change in personal circumstances. Recently, after I discovered that “Kristina” was a fake invented by Natalia Granchenko, I asked Natalia if she intended to return to work. She told me that this was not urgent, because she lived with her family and they were supporting her. Of course, as I alluded to earlier, Natalia does not live with her family and, for all intents and purposes, has no visible means of income. In fact, I am convinced that all Natalia’s income is generated through commissions earned for correspondence and chats with men, supplemented by men sending her money for support or gifts. Whilst I am sure that Natalia’s income may have dropped now that I am no longer in her life, I feel sure that she continues to work in an industry that she has become proficient in.
Of course, Natalia told me that she didn’t have a boyfriend, naively; I thought that I was the only man in her life when we were communicating. However, she has subsequently admitted to me that she has had a casual boyfriend for more than 1 year, but she met him only occasionally for sex, “perhaps once every 4-6 weeks”. She has never revealed the name of this boyfriend to me. In addition, she told me that she met a former boyfriend called “Dennis” on New Year’s Eve and that they ended up having sex after she was too drunk to resist.
My subsequent enquiries suggest that this is a mixture of fact and fiction. I am given to understand that her long term “casual boyfriend” is in fact Dennis and he virtually lives with Natalia. If this is true, I am left wondering what Dennis thought when his scantily clad “girlfriend” was spending every night talking to men on the internet complete with an open webcam. Did he know what was going on? I think I will never know for certain, but I can’t imagine many men accepting such behaviour. It is supposition, but I suspect the incident where Natalia claimed that she had sex with Dennis, a “former boyfriend”, was a combination of fact and fiction. I believe this did happen, but, as her boyfriend, she quite naturally arranged to spend New Year’s Eve with him!!! However, I wonder what Dennis would think if he knew that since I exposed Natalia, she has been insisting that we meet up for sex!
Of course, it is quite possible that you will be unfortunate enough to come across Natalia Granchenko in another guise, therefore I have decided to share some things that I have learned about Natalia over hundreds of hours of ‘chat’ and the exchange of more than 700 letters. If you notice any similarities, you may want to tread with caution, or ask for further proof of identity.
First of all, if Natalia uses a webcam, then it is likely the webcam image will poor, perhaps through bad lighting, or some other method, such as placing some cellophane over the lens to distort it. The webcam will typically be fixed on her breasts, but she will tell you that this is because the camera mounting will not remain fixed or that she hasn’t washed her hair or perhaps that she has no makeup on. If she does show you her face, then the image will be very carefully crafted, a close up image, typically on the eyes, poor quality, shaky and very short. Also remember, that Natalia was quite happy to don a blonde wig to disguise herself as Kristina Smirnova, therefore hair colour can’t be viewed as a indicator to her real identity. I can honestly say I did not have a clue that the blonde Kristina Smirnov was in fact the brunette Natalia Granchenko. I am given to understand that it is not uncommon for some girls, especially if they are earning a commission, to use more than one identity and when this is the case, they will never show their face, instead, the camera (if used at all) will be fixed onto their body (often sexily dressed).
If you are speaking with Natalia, you can expect her to come up with a myriad of excuses as to why you have to use the communication facilities of the dating site. For example, Natalia allowed me to buy her a new notebook in order that she would have a computer suitable for use with Skype. But, of course, she had no intention of allowing this to happen. First she said that the webcam didn’t work, and then she told me that the store refused to exchange the notebook, they would only agree to repair it which would take 6-8 weeks and we would not be able to chat during this time because her other laptop didn’t work with Skype. When I agreed to pay for a PC expert to resolve
the problem, he could not fix it, nor could he install an external webcam. Of course, once we have resolved that we would use Skype’s chat facility without video, we were to encounter a series of problems, first Natalia could not load it, then she could not understand it, and when she did get it working some weeks later, it would operate for anything from 5 minutes to 25 minutes and then inexplicably go offline! However, the Videochat facilities of jump4Love always appeared to work perfectly. Amazingly, other alternatives I suggested didn’t work for Natalia either, these included Yahoo Messenger, ooVoo and another web based Videochat system requiring no software, just a web browser. Of course I was angry and a little suspicious that all of these alternative (and free) methods of communications didn’t work, but Natalia was very clever at playing the damsel in distress, with little or no computing expertise and placing all the guilt on me for be so nasty. At the time it appeared to be a series of technical issues brought about by Natalia’s lack of basic computing skills, coupled with a poor service from Ukrainian companies. But, looking back on it now, there appears to be strong circumstantial evidence (in spite her denials), that Natalia was benefitting financially from me having to pay for the Videochat facilities of dating site, jump4Love.
Another particular penchant for Natalia was “hot chats” and sex toys. Natalia Granchenko really seemed to enjoy having what she liked to call hot chats and loved to fantasise. So, if the girl you are communicating with appears to be camera shy; invites you to have “hot chats” and loves to talk about vibrators, then you could be talking to Natalia Granchenko. When Natalia first wrote to me in the form of Kristina Smirnova, the letter was charming and not full of sexual innuendo; the “hot chats” came much later when we were comfortable with each other. However, I am given to understand that Natalia now prefers the more more direct approach, to the softer, more romantic letters I received from “Kristina”.
If I was to summarise Natalia Granchenko I would have to say that I believe that her primary motivation is control and money. I believe that she has very few scruples and this can be characterised by the fact that she used photographs of a girl she found on the internet to create her identity and even stooped as low as to even send me a photo of “Kristina” when she was 7 years old and in this instance, it was a photo lifted from a Ukrainian girl on social networking site. I think this was particularly shameful.
I find it hard believe that Natalia Granchenko is in a happy or satisfying relationship, because she clearly flirts with other men on camera and in front of her boyfriend, moreover, she was even insisting that I met her in Ukraine for 10 days after I had exposed her. I believe that Natalia is a fantasist, many of the stories she has invented have been detailed and consistent, delivered with commitment and conviction. However, I do wonder what her parents would think if they knew what she has been saying, especially if she genuinely has a step-father. Natalia appears to be a girl with no moral compass, this can be demonstrated by the fact that she was quite prepared to take subsistence money from me on the basis that she had to leave her job because she was being “sexually harassed” (a complete fabrication) and she was even willing to accept money for a new laptop, in spite of the fact that the one she owned worked perfectly well. Moreover, she was willing to agree to a meeting 5 times and on 3 occasions, cancel the meeting just a few days before,
knowing that flights and accommodation had been paid for. Only Natalia knew for certain that the meetings could never take place, because, of course, “Kristina” did not exist. In my view, it is one thing to try and extract money for personal gain, but it takes a certain type of person to allow a man (any man) to spend huge sums of money on flights and accommodation in the full and certain knowledge, that these meetings would never take place.
On a final note, it has to be said, that Natalia Granchenko could not have deceived me in this way without the connivance and support of Agency Director, Margarita Naumenko (Force of Love, Nikolaev) and the disappointing vetting procedures and auditing processes employed by Marriage and Dating site, Jump4Love.com!